Life in Korea is… great, wonderful, challenging, beautiful, frustrating, exciting… I have been here just over a month and as much as I keep saying I’m going to write more, I haven’t been. I thought I would double down and post on IG every day or twice a day. I haven’t. Far from it.
I have been allowing myself the space to immerse into this culture and figure a few things out and allowing myself space for that to be ok. I am a big believer in the both/and. Graduate school taught me this more than any other time in my life and I am finding my life in Asia so far to really embody this truth. It is wonderful, great, exciting AND frustrating, challenging, etc, etc. It does not need to be one or the other. It never needs to be. Living into ourselves is embracing the both/and in my opinion. What do you do with the both/ands of life? Do you embrace them and figure out ways to integrate them or do you have to live in one camp or the other?
That being said, my current mental challenge is to find the positive. To live more fully into the positive in life and look for the good. It is there. It is there just as much as the darkness is there. Complaining and negativity is easy. Positivity and finding the good in ugly situations is harder. Much harder. Yet that builds resilience and change and a much happier life.
The language barrier is quite challenging. Gluten free food is proving to be difficult. Soy sauce is in almost every damn thing. As I write this, I’m sitting at a coffee shop and I ordered a grapefruit shaved ice. Or I tried in my best gesturing and tiny Korean. It didn’t work. I received a grape slushy drink of some kind. You know what? It’s all good. It is hot out and the drink is refreshing. Not what I expected, but I’m choosing the good. The goodness of the fortune I have to be on the other side of the world, fulfilling a bucket list item I have had for years. The goodness of incredible friends and a community of people that I instantly found upon exiting the plane only over a month ago. People that you feel like you have known for years and are there when you need them.
I have been listening to a ton of podcasts while riding the bus and walking around town. It keeps me grounded and inspired as I transition to this new culture. I was listening to some Gary Vee today and was reminded to just be you. Make the money YOU want, make the choices YOU want, and don’t give a damn what others say. If you want to live in a mansion, work 85 hours a week and keep up with the Jones, do it. You want to live in a tiny house, travel the world, and work 20 hours a week, do it. But figure out what makes YOU happy, what you excel at, and go for it. Stop bitching, stop complaining, and chase what makes you happy. If you aren’t getting what you want, change courses. I was happy enough in Colorado, but still had the itch and desire to move to Asia. I knew I couldn’t ignore the voice any longer and I trust my gut. I really do. The people that support me most in this world, are cheering me on, believing in me and trusting I can and will do whatever I set my mind to. I am forever grateful.
The sky is the limit and you can really make your dreams a reality in this day in age. We are so fortunate and blessed. Cut out the negativity – whether it is a friend, a coworker, a family member, or your own voice. Cut out the doubters in your world. Their energy isn’t worth it. Be you and fully embrace your gifts and talents in the world. Build off your strengths, not your weaknesses and you will achieve greatness. I believe in you!